Narative: I keep hearing this song in my head titled “Keep Pushing On” but I feel as though I haven’t got the strength to do so. I’ve been keeping on for so long I now feel fearful that it’s all been in vain. My life is like that in comparison of running on a treadmill I can speed up or slow down my pace but still I feel like I’m on a road to nowhere.
What does the world want from me? This and others are the questions that dog my mind as of late. My days have gone dark. It does not matter how bright the sun has shown, in my world it’s a dark cloudy day. Is this depression? Is this my fate am I destined to be what I am, no greater than what I am?
Reflection is said to be a good thing. It is to give you perspective to see the light of things, clarity if you will. To gain a full perspective you must first take on the challenge to do so; that can be a slippery slope.
The trouble with trying to reflect when you are feeling depressed is you must retrace your steps to feel and fight your way through the darkness that now exist on your journeys path. That darkness consists of Negativity. Negativity is a powerful beast so by going into the darkness you risk the chance of never making it to the positivity of the light. I lift my head and recite what I remember from the pews of church as a child- “ Lord hear our prayers”
Here I am standing at what feels like the bank of the river’s edge ready to walk to the deep end of its depth. Will I be rescued by some form of revelation, perhaps a helping hand will be extended or will I drown in a whirlpool of disparity? I still don’t have all the answers but for now I will find the strength to push on and live another day.
Do you know someone who has or is currently battling depression?
Most people going through depression feel alone. They may feel embarrassed or as though they may be a burden to loved ones.
Try to be supportive. Let them know they are not alone. Once someone is willing to open up the most important thing you can do as a friend or family member is to listen.
Listening can be most helpful to that family member or friend in need.
Using reflective listening and encouraging words of support can let the person know you are being attentive to what’s being said. Example: It sounds like there has been some things going on that have you feeling pretty bad. Sorry you’ve been having such a tough time. I want you to know I’m here for you.
When you can show empathy for another’s plight it lets them know you have an understanding for what they are feeling. You don’t have to identify with it, but just simply making the effort to listen and be empathetic can be tremendous.
Take care of yourself as well for it may be emotionally draining for you as a friend to want to do all you can to help.
Remember not to put the pressure of their burden on your shoulders, you don’t have to find a way to fix their situation and most likely they don’t expect you to fix their problem. If they want to discuss options perhaps counseling is something they might consider exploring.
For help with depression or thoughts of suicide contact:
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline – 1-800-273-Talk (8255) 24hrs http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org
Written By: Larry D. Miller